Redefining Balance: What Motherhood Taught Me About Being Present in Business and Life

Someone asked me the other day, “How has motherhood changed you and your business?”
Without thinking, I responded, “I’ve redefined what being present really means.”

Before motherhood, I thought showing up was about productivity. I showed up for work, for friends, for my marriage—but only with whatever percent I had left in the tank or whatever I had mentally prepared to give. I didn’t know what it meant to be fully present. I was chasing balance through control and structure, trying to manage it all instead of actually living in it.

Spoiler: I never actually achieved balance. I always felt like I was falling short.
Like I could never be balanced enough. Not the wellness queen. Not the entrepreneurship rockstar. Not the best daughter, friend, or wife. I was always striving. Always overextending. Always stuck in a loop of not enough.

But then came motherhood.

And it flipped the script for me. 

Motherhood taught me that balance isn’t about fitting everything into perfectly portioned boxes. It’s about showing up fully to whatever moment is in front of you. Some days that looks like sending emails during nap time. Other days it looks like leaving your inbox or slack channel full and holding your baby through a fever.

It taught me that balance doesn’t mean equal. It means intentional.
Some days, I’m 80 percent business and 20 percent mom. Other days, it flips. And sometimes, it’s just messy but it’s beautiful. I gave myself permission to do me, do us and create our own standards of balance.

But even in the chaos, I’ve learned how to give 100 percent of my attention to the present moment. Not what’s next. Not what I missed. Not what’s expected. Just what’s in front of me right now.

This season of life forced me to redesign what balance looks like.  And if I’m being honest, it’s not what social media shows. It’s not waking up at 5 a.m. to hit the gym, batch content, pray, journal, make a smoothie, and parent perfectly by 9 a.m.

It’s slower.

It’s softer.
It’s filled with grace and sometimes tears.

But it’s also deeply fulfilling.

Balance in business and motherhood should never be set to the standard of what you see on social media or what your friends do. 

It should be based on God’s design for your life and what brings you joy and peace.

My challenge for you:

Today, I want you to do one thing.
Redefine what balance looks like for you.
Write it down.
Make peace with the version that doesn’t match what culture says it should be.
Set your own standards. Then go after them.

You don’t have to be everything to everyone all the time.
You just have to show up 100 percent in your present moment.
That’s where the joy is. That’s where the clarity comes. That’s where God meets you.